Spending Time Alone

June 1, 2016

My lifestyle, with my husband working away from home for weeks at a time, means I spend a lot of my time alone. I think you either love this or hate it, luckily I enjoy having the house to myself and spending time alone. I’ve never felt the need to always surround myself with people. As I’ve gotten older and grown more independent I no longer need other people to validate my life. I am comfortable being alone and enjoy spending time by myself. However, that doesn’t mean I spend the whole 3 weeks alone in the house. I always have a few events and nights out planned while he’s away as well as going into work every day for some human contact.

I recently took a week off work (had to use up some annual leave), while my husband was away at work. I purposely booked a week when my husband was away to see what it would be like spending the week completely alone (apart from the dog). I’ve been thinking about reducing my hours at work so I can concentrate more on this blog and do freelance work. So this was a little bit of a test to see how I can handle it. And I absolutely loved it, in fact, I would recommend everyone spend a couple of days home alone to focus on themselves once in awhile. I was able to potter about the house, spend time on my blog and binge watch Netflix guilt free (and without anyone bothering me). I got on with those tasks I’ve been putting off for ages and strangely found myself being so much more productive without anyone else around.

I do think it’s important that everyone takes the time to spend time alone. We spend so much of our time surrounded by people, making small talk, considering their feelings and emotions that we stop thinking about ourselves. I don’t know about you but after a busy day or week, I just want to escape and spend time by myself. Even if this is just putting my headphones in a switching the world off on my bus home or grabbing an hour to enjoy a bath. Being alone gives us the chance to recharge and focus on ourselves again, which can only be a good thing.

Spending Time Alone

But how can you find time to focus on yourself when you have a busy lifestyle? Yes, you could book a week off like I did, but not everyone has that luxury (if you do I highly recommend it). But I’m sure most of us could find a spare half hour in our day to be alone. Unfortunately, some of us have to plan in our alone time and need to have something to do, whether that’s watching Netflix or having a bath. I’ve a few ideas of what you can do while you’re enjoying some alone time.
Have a Bath
I’m sure you already know how relaxing a hot bath can be. Plan a bath evening into your week and enjoy a good hour (or more) soaking in the tub. Read your book, watch a film or turn off the lights and light a couple of candles. Remember to leave your phone in another room, that way you won’t be distracted by constant notifications and can probably relax.
Go For a Walk
Ideally, you’ll be able to go out and spend time in the middle of nowhere. But that is pretty unlikely, so find a local woodland, riverbank or park to enjoy a quiet walk in. I’m lucky that I live outside the city and have easy access to the countryside, I also have a dog who makes sure I get plenty of walks in nature.
Watch a Film
Forget about your massive to-do list for a couple of hours and sit down to watch a movie. The best thing about watching alone, is you get to pick the film (without anyone moaning they don’t like it). Treat yourself to some popcorn and change close the curtains for a cinema experience. Or if your comfortable go to the cinema alone to watch whatever you want (the best bit is you can eat all the popcorn yourself)
Have a Drink
Now I’m not suggesting you get drunk alone (that’s definitely not a good idea) but there’s nothing wrong with pouring yourself a glass of wine or a gin and tonic at the end of a hard day. If it’s nice to sit outside in the garden to enjoy your drink, again leaving your phone in another room. Or if alcohol isn’t your thing, make yourself a cup of tea (or coffee) and make sure you sit down to enjoy it.
Get Some Work Done
I mentioned earlier that I found I was way more productive when working alone, so try tackling those big jobs next time you have the house to yourself. It could be clearing out a cupboard (or 2), sorting out your inbox or writing a blog post. Having something to focus on can help you make the most of your time alone.

11 responses to “Spending Time Alone”

  1. anjmjen95 says:

    I enjoy spending time with myself, setting it aside can be difficult at times but I definitely think it's important! Lovely post 🙂
    – Josie (https://anjmjen95.wordpress.com)

    • admin says:

      It can be so tough sometimes as everything else seems more important. But its equally important to be alone and look after yourself. i hope you find some alone time soon x

  2. Samantha P says:

    I LOVE alone time. As a person who is required to spend so much time around others for work and such, alone time is sacred. I like locking myself up in my room and dealing with no one. I tend to do that for hours on Sundays. 🙂

    S .x http://ramblingsofayoungprgirl.blogspot.com

  3. Thank you for writing this post – I find myself increasingly choosing to have nights in alone rather than going out, and I love it! Not only is it really relaxing and great to have some 'me' time, but I've also saved a fortune from not going out as much! x


    • admin says:

      Yes I now choose a night in alone over a night out – must be a sign of getting older. Your right about saving money, which can only be a good thing

  4. Sarah Smiles says:

    I love spending time alone – myself and my boyfriend used to live apart so I had lots of alone time. Now, I actually enjoy when he goes out to basketball on a Sunday, it gives me a few hours to just do the things I want to do – its great! 🙂 xxx

    Sarah / Sarah Smiles

    • admin says:

      I think we all need sometime apart, especially when you live with your partner. Having time to do your own thing is so important for both or you

  5. Oh god give me two hours with my own company every day and I'm a happier woman! I work at home most days, and if I want company I have a membership at a club where I take a desk, and the dog, and get the buzz of other people around me. Good luck with re-balancing your career!

  6. I haven't been spending time with myself for a long time… Internship, uni, dissertation writing, social life… wouf! Too much things… can't wait for the summer. My parents are going to Corsica and leaving the house in Normandy completely empty… Will probably snick in and enjoy some time by the pool there. I think getting time for myself is really good just to reenergize myself

  7. Loved this post, Jen. I appear very outgoing, so people who don't know me very well don't realise I'm a massive introvert. I need a substantial amount of time along just to be able to exist in the world, never mind combine three different writing careers!

    It's Sunday lunchtime, and my husband is still in bed so this is my most productive blog time – just me, the laptop, tea and some occasional feline visitors!

    Lis / last year's girl x

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