This year I’ve been making a real effort to slow down and enjoy the little things in life. Whether that’s taking 5 minutes to sit quietly and enjoy my morning coffee or taking time away from my desk to enjoy a walk in the countryside. I’m focusing on allowing myself to enjoy the moment and slow down and discovering the art of slow living.
I don’t want to be a ‘girlboss’ (does anyone else really hate that term or is it just me) working all hours and constantly hustling. With no time for friends and family. I never want to be the person who responds with ‘busy’ when asked how they’ve been. I don’t want to be the person who always cancels plans because of work or worse never makes plans claiming they’re just so busy. I want to be the kind of person who has time of the people in my life and doing the things that matter to me.
Telling people how busy you are, doesn’t make you any more important or successful. You can still be successful if you slow down. Simplifying your life and choosing to slow down doesn’t make you lazy or mean you don’t work hard. It shows you have chosen to focus on what’s important to you and define your own success. We don’t need to be constantly hustling or working 14 hours a day to be successful. Being busy is not a badge of honour nor does it equal success.
I’m seeing more and more people define success on their own terms. Success doesn’t have to be about always working and building a career. Success is about deciding what’s important to you and focusing on that.
Slow living isn’t about quitting your job and moving to the middle of nowhere nor is it about long lies and the pretty coffees you see on Instagram. It’s about deciding what’s important to you can focusing on that. When you have a clear focus you can start eliminating the noise and reducing the busyness. This can be as simple as sitting in and giving yourself time to enjoy your coffee rather than grabbing a cup on the go. Slow down to enjoy the moment and stop rushing from one thing to another embrace the here and now.
Take time to organise your life so you have more time for what you enjoy. This could be as simple as setting up automatic payments to save time paying bills or planning a free afternoon each week to get outdoors. Spend less time watching TV in the evening and read a book or go for a walk instead. Reduce the amount of time you spend on Social Media. We now have phone free Fridays in my house. Everyone’s phone is turned off and put upstairs out the way at 5 pm. This is fast becoming my favourite night of the week, not because of the gin but because we actually talk to each other rather than just sit in the same room on our phones. It’s only a couple of hours a week but it really helps to simplify our lives.
In the same way that busy doesn’t equal successful choosing to simplify and slow down doesn’t make you lazy. My life isn’t one big holiday, I do work hard and yes there is plenty of hustling going on. However, I don’t prioritise this. If I want to have a more relaxed morning or take the dog on a long walk in the countryside, then I will. I don’t over plan my days instead I have only a few priority tasks to complete to allow myself a flexible routine. The option is there but I will never choose to work to 11 pm. I would rather relax in the evening and that doesn’t make me lazy. It means I’m able to manage my time to finish my work at a sensible time.